Jealousy is a dangerous sentiment as it can easily fuel people with frustration and resentment rather than energy and motivation. In any scenario, it tells about a frustration to address to. I really liked your honesty, I wish there was more of it on social media in general!
I respect that you have enough energy to be jealous after so long in this business. I don't have the energy for bitterness, anger, or jealousy anymore.
I used to feel jealousy, as well as fear, but over the years I've let both go, because I found they wiped out all the fun and spontaneity of my writing. But I totally get it, and there are moments when I read something, or see something, and think hey, come on, why them and not me, ...but I lost so much time, stuck in fear (often combined with jealousy, and the combo was not a yummy one!!) that I no longer have enough time left. So now I'm mostly unstuck, and it's wonderful and so liberating!! Please try to let it go because it helps so much, it truly does. I'm super happy you posted this, it's an important thing to talk about! Good luck! Have fun!! xx
I think jealousy comes from a scarcity mindset, that there is not enough to go around. We all feel it. It’s a human thing. But I think you are right in your second approach: to let it motivate you. I’d go a step further. What SPECIFICALLY are you jealous of? What do those writers do that you don’t; that you could learn from? Jealousy can be your greatest teacher! My trick is, when I feel jealousy, I ask myself these hard questions, and then go the extra mile to be supportive of the writer I’m jealous of, or a different writer. This way, I’m forcing a shift in my brain from scarcity to abundance; from competition to support/ encouragement. And you know what is strange? It feels so much healthier in my body than jealousy and resentment does. It’s good karma to be supportive of other writers!
You are sooooo right (as usual). Shifting from competition to encouragement also means you're putting yourself in the same space as them in a much more healthy way.
I try not to feed the jealousy because it does the opposite for me—I lose confidence in my own skills and stop trying. Instead I take the no fucks given approach. I think it’s working? 😅
I can fully relate. I feel that way with certain award shows. There’s jealousy that ‘they shouldn’t have it’ and then there’s jealousy that is ‘I want what they have.’ That is one way to identify what is really important to you.
Jealousy is a dangerous sentiment as it can easily fuel people with frustration and resentment rather than energy and motivation. In any scenario, it tells about a frustration to address to. I really liked your honesty, I wish there was more of it on social media in general!
It's so dangerous!
I respect that you have enough energy to be jealous after so long in this business. I don't have the energy for bitterness, anger, or jealousy anymore.
I'm being a bit tongue and cheek, but the point is the same...
I used to feel jealousy, as well as fear, but over the years I've let both go, because I found they wiped out all the fun and spontaneity of my writing. But I totally get it, and there are moments when I read something, or see something, and think hey, come on, why them and not me, ...but I lost so much time, stuck in fear (often combined with jealousy, and the combo was not a yummy one!!) that I no longer have enough time left. So now I'm mostly unstuck, and it's wonderful and so liberating!! Please try to let it go because it helps so much, it truly does. I'm super happy you posted this, it's an important thing to talk about! Good luck! Have fun!! xx
I think jealousy comes from a scarcity mindset, that there is not enough to go around. We all feel it. It’s a human thing. But I think you are right in your second approach: to let it motivate you. I’d go a step further. What SPECIFICALLY are you jealous of? What do those writers do that you don’t; that you could learn from? Jealousy can be your greatest teacher! My trick is, when I feel jealousy, I ask myself these hard questions, and then go the extra mile to be supportive of the writer I’m jealous of, or a different writer. This way, I’m forcing a shift in my brain from scarcity to abundance; from competition to support/ encouragement. And you know what is strange? It feels so much healthier in my body than jealousy and resentment does. It’s good karma to be supportive of other writers!
You are sooooo right (as usual). Shifting from competition to encouragement also means you're putting yourself in the same space as them in a much more healthy way.
Yes! It’s an energy thing… :)
I try not to feed the jealousy because it does the opposite for me—I lose confidence in my own skills and stop trying. Instead I take the no fucks given approach. I think it’s working? 😅
Haha I love that approach!!!
Thank you for your honesty. I’ve experienced both effects.
It's hard not to feel these emotions, but how we act on it is very much in our control.
Love the honesty & inspiration, here! It's so true ....
We feel all the feelings.
I can fully relate. I feel that way with certain award shows. There’s jealousy that ‘they shouldn’t have it’ and then there’s jealousy that is ‘I want what they have.’ That is one way to identify what is really important to you.